What I have been up to as of late.
Some time ago I received a head injury and a concussion. I am healing slowly. I am not yet up to par, I am working on it every day. I hope this lets you all understand why I have not had much of a presence here on my site as of late, or why I haven’t been responding to your emails and phone calls.
I am still in the healing process. The doctors are happy with my progress but there is still time ahead before I will be back to my amazing self.
I will attempt to respond to your emails, but for the time being I must concentrate on my recovery. I am looking forward to returning with a vengeance and seeing you all soon.
Thank you, everyone that has been checking in on me, and giving me your support, all of you are very much missed.
Mistress Kyra
Oh, and for those of you who havent noticed, I added a subcribe button on my blog. If you sign up for it, you will recive my new blog posts Via EMail, instead of having to always check back here to see if I have an update. -Enjoy
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Kinky speed dating!!
Kinky speed dating! its back! this saturday july 9th!
come and down and support this great cause. and who knows,maybe in the mists of all this fun, you will find the Mistress, Master, or submissive of your dreams. you can find out more about this amazing event by visiting
http://www.mistressellen.com/new/Public/Kinky_Connections.html
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Negative Traits – Seven Deadly Sins for a Submissive
Negative Traits – Seven Deadly Sins for a Submissive
1. manipulation – the whole point of being submissive is to be compliant and to follow the lead of another, so to me being manipulative, trying to control the situation, even horror of horrors ‘topping from the bottom’, is to completely go against everything a sub should be trying to achieve.
It must be very exhausting for a Dom to constantly have to battle against a sub who is trying to take control, manipulate the situation to their liking, wheedle out of things, have their way after being told no, following the letter of the law and not the spirit of the law and so on. And to be honest i’m not sure what either the Dom or the sub would get out of the dynamic in that case; i know there are Doms who like to ‘force’ a sub to obey seemingly against her will, but the manipulation i’m talking about here is more than that – has the sub really submitted if she is still trying to control and influence events?
2. secrecy – this one would also cover lack of open communication and manipulation, or hiding things from the Dom, all of which i feel can be very detrimental to a D/s relationship. Whilst it’s true that different Doms have different rules regarding how much they require their sub to disclose to them, i still feel it is important that subs tell their Dom about their worries, fears, concerns, difficulties, etc. so that the Dom has the right information to make informed decisions. It is very difficult to be in control of someone else without having all the necessary information, and indeed this can lead to some inappropriate, bad or even detrimental decisions being made. I have seen many a relationship end because a Dominant was blamed for a bad decision when they made the decision with half the facts. To my mind communication is even more imperative to a D/s relationship than a vanilla one, because of the much higher levels of control and dependency involved.
3. dishonesty – Being Honesty isn’t just about telling the truth but being forthright and open with information, I guess the first three I have all could be rolled into one. Just as a sub needs to be able to trust her Dom, a Dom needs to know that He can trust the sub, that she is being truthful to Him in answering His questions, that there are no nasty secrets being hidden from Him, no hidden agendas and ulterior motives.
Sometimes being economical with the truth can be dangerous to the safety of the sub, such as not telling Him about mental, emotional or physical limitations or difficulties which could cause harm to occur to the sub during a scene. And often dishonesty can be a ‘deal-breaker’ with regards to the relationship, when the lies are finally exposed (and they nearly always are). Again, i think it is more prevalent amongst online D/s relationships, but i’m sure there are also dishonest subs in real-life dynamics too.
4. brattiness – a controversial one because some subs love to be bratty, feeling it is part of their personality and makes things more fun, and some Doms seem to enjoy the challenge of ‘taming’ a bratty sub. But i’m not talking about the ‘show’ brattiness, where it’s put on to spice things up, to make a pretence out of not wanting to submit, or being ‘forced’ to submit, which in a way can serve to reinforce both the Dom and the sub roles when the sub is made to successfully submit by the powerful Dom. i’m talking about true brattiness, which i have seen many examples of in the online chatrooms, munches and get togethers , where subs show complete disrespect for the Doms, being rude and snarky and sarcastic, or playing silly little ‘jokes’ or tricks, answering back, arguing with the Doms for the sake of it, generally being difficult (and to my mind childish).
i honestly don’t see the point of this form of brattiness, except i guess it does get them attention (negative as well as positive), gets them a certain reputation for being ‘feisty’ which they seem to revel in and possibly keeps them entertained. i just think there’s no place for brattiness in a D/s relationship, it’s disrespectful, childish and inappropriate and must again be very wearing for the Dom.
5. self-centeredness – a sub who is continually thinking about herself, looking out for her own comfort and wants and desires, pushing for what she can get out of every situation, making decisions that serve her own interests, is not going to be serving her Dom to the best of her ability. There’s a high level of selflessness that is necessary to being a good sub, even if we do at times yearn for certain things or even ask for them if we need them that badly (and i’m not talking about basic needs being met here, or the requirement of some subs to ask permission for everything). i believe that a sub should put the needs of her Dom before her own, strive to make Him comfortable and happy, look for ways in which she can please Him, make decisions based on what she knows He prefers or desires, in order to keep their relationship strong.
6. laziness – yes we all get lazy from time to time, can’t be bothered to do something we know we really ought to, or don’t put very much effort into our tasks, lack of attentiveness and attention to details can often happen. But when that becomes the norm i think there’s potential for problems in a D/s relationship. Just as a sub suffers when her Dom can’t be bothered (apathy), so a Dom suffers through the laziness of His sub. If she’s not putting much effort into her training, chores, daily requirements, scenes or service of Him neither of them are going to get much satisfaction from it and there’s going to be very little progress in her development as a sub or the development of their relationship in general. And a D/s relationship that’s left to stagnate is not healthy for either participant.
7. disobedience – it may seem obvious to say it, but a sub who blatantly disregards the rules, who purposefully disobeys, who constantly oversteps the boundaries or flat out refuses to carry out the Dom’s orders, isn’t actually submitting at all. And if she’s not submitting is it really a D/s relationship? i know there are times when all subs break the rules, make mistakes and do things wrong, but often these are genuine errors and most of those subs will try hard not to repeat the same mistake again. And admittedly we all have times when we feel like disobeying, but most of us push past those feelings and get on with it anyway (which to me is a much harder form of submission than complying with things which are easy). Flat out, continual disobedience would be detrimental to any D/s relationship.
I found this on the web, and wanted to post it!
MistressKya
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Domcon
Domcon!
Mistress Kyra von Kropp
www.MistressKyra.com
714 784 2046
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Sneak peak
I love what I do!
Just a small glimpse from the shoot i did on Sunday. from the look on my face, it is clearly evident that I love what I do! Nothing sweeter then teasing and torturing someone!
Worship, Desire, and Obey
Mistress Kyra von Kropp
www.MistressKyra.com
714 784 2046
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Looking for a video slave
Hi Guys, I am looking for someone fun to shot some D/S videos on Sunday the 3rd! In L.A. Hoods are ok if needed. This should be one hell of a good time. After all, you would get to be my little play things for a few hours 
I cant stress enough here: You must be reliable and dependable!
You may email me for more information.
MistressKyra@gmail.com
Mistress Kyra
www.MistressKyra.com
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Interview.
I recently had the honor of doing an interview with the famous site DickieVirgin.com.
I was VERY happy to do so. This site has been around for over 10 plus years, and is very well respected. I have been a frequent visitor of this site for a very long time!
If you’re wanting to find out a little more about me, you may read my interview here.
http://www.dickievirgin.com/interviews/bruce.html
ENjoy!
Mistress Kyra von Kropp
www.Mistresskyra.com
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E-mails
I love my Mac mail program. ( Though sometimes I do not believe I get all my E-mail.) It will save everything I get. But then before I know it, my email count it well over 2000, and trying to find something specific can be hectic.
So every once in a while, I clean out my mail box. This can take alot of time. I tend to get alot of emails. Men asking questions, females asking questions. The question I kept running into to today while cleaning out my E-mail was this one: Do I “get off” when I play ? ( I am paraphrasing here)
So I am going to (again) try and explain this the best I can.
The FemDom Orgasm
Oh hell yea, its one of the many things I love about playing. Now its not the kind of orgasm your probably thinking about. It’s not a sexual It’s so much better then that! (I know hard to imagine)
Its both your mind and body getting a buzz.
The point where you get chills all over – much like after an orgasm – and where my I get kind of a humming in my ear and all over my body. Everything seems to go a little hazy, and you get a rush of adrenaline pumped into your system all at once.
Words can’t really do it justice. But, it is an incredible feeling.
Its just one of the many joys of playing.
Whoreship, desire, obey
Mistress Kyra von Kropp
www.Mistresskyra.com
The art of getting into someones head.
I met Timmy about a year and a half ago. He is one of those charming, good looking guys who seemed so proud that he goes through women like water. I believe he even boasted that he can sleep with a different girl every night of the week If he chose to. ( I know, so not sexy!) He wasn’t really sure about his submissive side. How he was a “real manly man”, and never tried the submissive thing, but wanted to. After chatting about a week with him, I told him I would meet him, I was going to be in his area so It could be fun, and we could go out.
I had a blast that night. It was the closest thing to a ” normal date” that I had been on in a while. (most of my “dates” usually involve something scene relative , or a play party of sorts.) This one was dinner. Then we hit a bar, messed round, had a few drinks, talked, nothing fetish. It was very vanilla. Not something I am use to. He was on his best behavior all night long. Afterwards I did wind up back at his place, showing him a taste of my world. I took out my strap on and used it on him for his first time.
We continued to talk more, and the next time I saw him was later that week at a concert he wanted to take me to. I was really looking forward to this. Until we got there. He was rude, and pretty much acting like a little bitch. He seemed to have forgotten all his manners at home, along with his charm. I am really not use to this behavior, and had no problem telling him he was acting like a little bitch. I kept thinking where was that sweet boy from the other night? I told him something along the lines of stop acting like a little bitch, or I’ll treat him like one. He replied with something like me being too “nice” to be a Mistress, and to push it further with him, something about me not being able to make him into a little bitch, or not having the ability, something along those lines. Well, this just pissed me off, and that’s never good for someone to do. I pulled out my phone and called someone who is very dear to me. I told the person on the phone, that after the concert was over, I was bringing over someone who needs to be taught a lesson in manners and how to be a little bitch. Then dropped the subject. It was that simple. see, now this is when me seeming “sweet” comes in handy. I am sure for the rest of the concert he thought I was bluffing. I wasn’t.
I wish you could have seen him instantly get nervous when i pulled off the freeway off ramp on the way to my friends house.. He asked if i was really going to do this. My reply. “damn right. you should of thought of this before you acted like a little bitch” I made him wait in the car a minute while i went up to my friends house. I was so excited to see my friend standing there when he opened the door. I gave him a hug and the low down really fast, and instructed him to not even look at Timmy, or talk to him. Just to follow my lead. I should add here that on my way back to my car to get Timmy, i was wondering if he was going to be there. He was.
I brought him into the house, and told him to get naked and kneel at my feet as I sat down. I figured I would let him stew there for a bit. My friend offered me a drink, I slapped Timmy across the face and grabbed his face and told him to look, look good. That is what a man looks like that has manners.
I cant tell you all how much fun it was to totally ignore Timmy. I knew he was freaking out, he was shaking. I am sure still wondering in his little head if i was all talk or not. He soon found out, I am not.
I told him to stand and follow me into my friends bedroom. He very quickly seen my friend standing there with a nice hard cock. (awww the joys of being me.) I started talking into Timmy’s ear about what he was to do. I told him not to disappoint me. I asked if he wanted to please me. I cant put into words, how weak his reply of ‘yes” was. I told him that this was pay back, not only for the way he treated me, but for all the silly little girls he has made suck his cock. I called him a few names, like cock sucking bitch. I also told him, I am sure he would be good at this. I mean after all, he was such a player with the ladies. . Right? well as it turns out, He wasn’t any good at all, not even with my coaching. I almost felt bad for my friend, almost. (bad head is better then no head right?) I wish I had a camera to take a photo of Timmys face, he was not too happy, but I will say he was hard as a rock the entire time. After a while I said my good byes and took Timmy home. It was a very quite car ride back to his car. But his good bye to me was very hot.
Timmy didn’t call me for about anther week or so… I think he thought I would be like all the little whiny girls he is use to dating. That I would call him with something like ” why haven’t you called me” or something lame like that. Yuck. So not my cup of tea. He kind of had to process a few things I guess. That’s not really my problem. I had no problem telling him why I didn’t want to see him again. He wasn’t to happy. Again, not my problem.
For weeks he would text me asking if he could call me, My replies were always along the lines of “sorry things could never work between us”. then about a few more months this turned into “sorry, I am dating a real man right now, I don’t have time to talk to a little bitch like you” he would text me asking if he could call me, and I was very sweet when i replied by telling him sorry, I’m laying in bed right now, and I just finished getting fucked by a real man, I am exhausted and i cant really talk.” This went on for months, emails ,texts some i replied to and some i didn’t.
He would beg to have my time. I rarely gave it to him. I slowly watched him turn in to a groveling little submissive.
About a year later this was still going on, not as much but still going on. He called me and asked to see me, he was going to be in my Area and wanted to take me to dinner. I saw no problem with that.
So, I let him take me to dinner. I forgot how good-looking he was. I went back to his hotel room, let him beg me for me to use my strap on, on him but, only after filming it on his phone. I wanted him this time, to have proof that he was a little bitch. it was a fun night, I teased him a bit. and I left him wanting and begging for more. But he did get it.
6 months later, he still sending me texts. and some emails. Begging for anther chance, begging to submit to me, begging to suck cock for me, etc.
Tonight, I was in the mood to play with someone. He happened text in this time frame and asked if he could talk to me. I let him. (aww My weakness: a cute submissive man imploring to talk with me.) After chatting a bit with him, He asked me why i wasn’t meaner to him that night of the concert… He said i could of been. Yes he is right, I could of yelled at him for being an asshole that night or something stupid like that, or pushed him over the edge that night at my friends house. But where is the fun in that? Foolish little boy.
I asked him a few simple questions. How many times have you craved cock now? His reply ” almost everyday” or jacked off to that night? ” again same reply, or watched that video we made of me fucking your ass and calling you a bitch? His reply ” more then I could express to you.”
He asked me if i miss him, or think of him, and i laugh at him for asking such a stupid question. And i tell him NO. Or how many times he had expressed to me how there is nobody else out there like me? How many times had he begged me to give him a second chance? I didn’t let him answer these questions..
You still have no IDEA what I have done to you, do you? “No?” was his reply. ( I loved how I had to spell this out for him.) How can you be soo foolish and not see it? I turned you into a total submissive. One who not only has an overwhelming desire to submit to me all the time, but who NOW craves my strap on and even better, a man’s cock. Yes, I am so unlike the other girls you now try and date. I, unlike them, have shown you just what a true little bitch you are.
I am proud to say: ladies and gentlemen, I think he got my point.
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The Power of Music
The Power of Music
